Working in the shoe store, I’m around the general public a lot, and like most businesses, we have our fair share of regulars. You get to know all of the insecurities any number of people could have, and a lot of the time, you can see the effect you have on their confidence levels. This week, I had the pleasure of interacting with a woman with whom I made a connection with the previous time she was in the store. I had been informed that the woman, who we’ll call Sue, had lost over 100 pounds. She never told me this information, but you could see it in the way she hesitatingly enjoyed trying on all of the fun shoes and boots she never dared to wear when she was heavier.
As she tried on a pair of black, slouchy boots, I told her how great they looked on her. Her face lit up, and there was a shy smile spreading across her face. “Do you really think so?” she asked. It’s a question I am frequently asked, usually followed by, “Or are you just saying that so I’ll buy the shoes?” While I have lied on occasion, I generally try to gauge my customer’s response first. Do they love the shoe? If yes, that’s when I roll out the magic.
After chatting with her for a while, Sue touched on a very important subject for me – confidence in yourself. “I know that whenever I put on some kind of cute clothing, I almost feel guilty for liking how I look,” Sue confessed. And I confess now, that I know exactly how she feels. It’s a terrible way to feel, and I have pushed myself to fight that feeling for a long time now.
For me at least, being overweight for most of my life has been an effective way to hide from opportunities that might better myself. In the last year, I have stopped using my weight as a crutch, excuse, and this has helped me realize that it’s okay to like the way I look.
Honestly, the fact that I have been made to feel bad about myself because of my weight is hard enough, and then to see the effect it has had on so many of my friends?! It’s depressing and unfair. It’s how companies make money, buy this to make you feel better, or that to hide how you feel.
Anyways, the point of this rant is that you should never be afraid to like what you look like. As long as you love who you are, nobody else should be able to change your mind.